Why most advice on professionalism falls flat

Most advice about professionalism focuses on surface-level presentation — how you look, what you say, and how to nail the first impression.

Sure, this can help. But people update their impressions of you over time. A weak first impression can be overcome, and a strong one can’t save you if you are characteristically lazy, rude, or show poor judgement.

So why all the focus on the surface-level stuff? Because it’s easy to teach — and because these gaps feel the most terrifying when you are starting out: how to dress, shake hands, get a haircut, open a meeting, or deflect a tough question.

But make no mistake: this is training on etiquette, not professionalism. Etiquette matters — it’s a key ingredient of professionalism.

It’s the tip of the iceberg, but it is not the iceberg.

Fortunately, more advice for school and university leavers is going a level deeper now. But not by much. You will see tips like “be willing to learn,” “own your mistakes,” or “accept feedback."

Again, this is not 'wrong,' it's just incomplete. Here's the problem with relying on advice like this:

Sprawl. There's so much of this advice. All coming at you at the same pace, and the same level It's so much to memorise. Some advice applies at all times, and some of it is sometimes. Much of it is context-dependent. It would work well in a law firm, but not in a startup. It ends up as a chaotic jumble of slogans, scripts, and tricks that sounds great, but is hard to actually keep front-of-mind and put to use.

What you need is a framework. Something to hook all this advice onto. Without it, you get confused and overwhelmed. With it, you chunk and store the info in a way that makes it easier to retrieve and use.

Going without a framework is like trying to hike through dense jungle with no map, just a handful of trail tips and landmark names. You might have lots of decent guidance — and still be completely, undeniably lost.

The framework I teach, the Parthenon of Professionalism, gives people one long-term goal, two foundational habits to cultivate, and three three strategies to consistently apply,

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The first thing to understand about professionalism:

Professionalism isn’t a fixed state or badge. It’s not granted to you after saying and doing the right things during a short period where you are being judged on your behaviour.

It’s a process. A temporary one — a transition. Every time you enter a new environment, you have to adapt to how it works, earn acceptance, and become valued. And just when you get comfortable, something will shifts — your role changes, you move teams, you get promoted. The cycle begins again. Even if you don’t change, your environment will. The process repeats.

Professionalism means earning your place, over and over.

As you gain experience, this gets less daunting. Just like a seasoned explorer: the 50th jungle is still new terrain, but the process of navigating it is easier.

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